Your Maid Hates You: Here’s Why and How to Solve it

And that is the truth nobody wants to say out loud, but I would ( because I am Maldita.). Everyone hates housework, we don’t like doing it for ourselves, much less for somebody else. And unless you are a billionaire who can afford to overcompensate away the completely natural distaste for servitude and dullness of chores by paying way above the average salary range for domestic services, your maid hates you, she just can’t say it out loud or, at the very least, she is not consciously aware of it. She will just find your quirks irritating or notice less than desirable qualities about you without being aware that her distaste for servitude is the real reason behind her dislike for you. The truth is, there is nothing wrong with you, it’s not your fault, so don’t feel guilty, but it is also not their fault either for feeling that way.

So, who is the bad guy here?

So, she hates you and you won’t know it until she destroys your stuff or steal your valuables or start spreading rumors about you. When she does that, does it mean she is an evil person? Some are, but not necessarily all of them. The distaste for servitude is natural -- we all want to be free people, respected and admired as an independent and dignified person. That’s the reason why children, when asked what they want to be when they grow up, always say they want to be a doctor, lawyer or pilot. No child ever said they want to become a janitor, a domestic helper or a yaya when they grow up --- that is a job borne out of need rather than a coveted desire. And, status matters in society, from the most primitive tribes to the liberated societies of the first world, there is a hierarchy and once you start doing household chores for someone else, it tells you that you are not on top of that hierarchy. According to social exchange theory and workplace psychology, humans possess an innate aversion to perceived power asymmetries and subjugation. Everyone wants to be treated an Equal, if not superior, of others as a person --- this is a natural feeling all people have and this lack of awareness is the reason why employers of domestic workers are left wondering why every time their maids do something untoward – destroy, steal, mess up their food, etc.

So, she hates you. Now what?

Fortunately, there is an easy answer that does not require you to be a billionaire who can shove fistfuls of cash for simple domestic work because it is possible to avail of domestic support services without feeling like an “oppressor” or feeling guilty for subjugating others.

The solution is to approach domestic work like other service work, similar to how we hire

craftsmen, furniture-makers, repairmen and roofers. Yes, they fall under blue collar work that

does not involve knowledge work but they come in for a specific task, get paid for a specific

scope of work and leave after the work is done. As a stay-out, on-call domestic service provider, the cleaner does not lose their sense of autonomy because they are not at a master’s beck and call whose deference and timid compliance is expected. They are professional cleaners called in to do a task, paid for it fairly and leaves afterwards to go back to their own home to live their own independent lives. This removes the master-slave dynamic and turns it into a professional client-service provider relationship. It stops feeling like personal subjugation between a master and slave to a respectful, equal exchange of value between a client and a service provider. No one owns anyone, both are separate independent people transacting an exchange of value. Respect is expected both ways because it is a transaction between equals.

How Maid-on-Demand helps?

Maid-on-Demand is at the forefront of this initiative of professionalizing the cleaning business along with other domestic support services. Instead of relying on old-fashioned live-in arrangements, the Maid-on-Demand booking platform housed in the www.maid-on-demand.com website is making it easy for mothers and homemakers to easily avail of affordable, good quality domestic support on-demand only, at a time and day convenient to the mother while allowing the cleaning lady to live their lives to the fullest. In turn, it aims to help domestic service providers to earn a livable income through fractional employment that has a potential to earn higher than if they were receiving a fixed monthly from just one employer.

With Maid-on-Demand, MODern Moms will be able to Clean Less and Live More.